Once you settle on an activity, remember the process may end up being trial and error. Another suggestion from Dr. Dayanim is to sign up for a class with one of your child’s friends, if they seem nervous. As the weeks go by, make sure to talk with them about it and encourage them to be honest; it may take trying a few things to find the right fit. It can be tough, but you also have to put aside your own feelings about your child following a hobby you pursued growing up. You may have loved ballet, hockey or playing the piano, but the truth is, they may want nothing to do with those things, so don’t force it. Watching your kids excel at something they’re truly passionate about will be so much more rewarding in the end.
Blogger Allyson Reynolds expounded on this topic on the blog Power of Moms, saying, “Don’t get too comfortable with the idea of creating little clones. Just a few months ago, I finally came to grips with the reality that our children were never going to be ‘sporty.’ For a long time I liked the idea of my kids being ‘sporty,’ but since my husband and I aren’t really into sports ... I shouldn’t have been too surprised when our children didn’t show much interest either.”